World is not a bad place, its just your Experiences are....

Whether you open social media or any mainstream news channel all you see are the news of crimes, corruption and deaths. Its seems like there is so much negative things are happening in the world. We consume hours & hours of social media content consciously and unconsciously. And most of it is negative and toxic content. And whether you notice or not it affects our world view a lot. You believe it or not, the type of content you are feeding in your brain decides how you see and perceive the world.

Incident from my office

Few years back I was working in an IT firm in Noida. There is one feminist girl in my team. One fine day we all team members were doing some casual discussions while having coffee. Then the feminist girl  brought the topic of gender discrimination in India. She said that women in our country are still not have the same rights and freedom as man. I told her that things are changing gradually and in metro and tier 1 cities girls are getting everything. People are becoming aware and they are giving their daughters the rights they deserve. She still insisted on her point. She gave example how in every relationship the wife/gf is not allowed to talk much to her male friends or colleagues. Where as husband is free to talk to his female friends. And nobody holds an objection. She further added that all the man are like that. It seems that she has a very negative viewpoint of men in general.  I asked her a question- "How many men do you have interacted with till date". She said "What" in a confused tone. I explained her from her teenage to till date she may have interreacted hardly with more than 100 men. If we count her brothers, school friends, college friends, boyfriends, colleagues and almost every men she interacted no will be less than or about 100. So I explained her how can you judge an entire population of boys based on your sample of 100. its your bad experiences that guys you interacted with disappointed you. And you are blaming an entire gender for it. She somewhat gets my point. And thank god I was able to at least erase some negativity from her mind. 

Incident with my friend in Pune

One of my friend just joined a company in Pune few weeks back. I called him to just to know about his well being. He was very disappointed from his new job since there is too much office politics in his office. Also people discriminate between the Marathi and non Marathi people. My friend was angry at this issue and he told me that Marathi people are very bad and they discriminate people like us who are outsiders. Again this is the attitude as that of the girl in my office. So I cleared his negative views with the same analogy. I asked him how many people are there in his team working with him. He said 20 people. And I said how many are those who do discrimination. He said 8 people are very toxic. So for those 8 people you declared an entire state as bad and discriminative. There might be some nice people living in there as well. Because nice and good people are everywhere in the world. Its just our bad luck that we may not found them and instead dealt with jerks. My friend understood my point that its his personal experience that is bad and not the state.    

What happens when we hold tight our negative experiences

When we hold our experiences for so long we just punish ourselves to face similar kinds of experiences in the future. Yes you read it right, if we repeat the corrupt scenarios in our mind again and again, we would get similar results with minor difference. So if you don't want to repeat that mishappening to you then its better to carefully choose your thoughts and let go of your past experiences.

How to let go of past experiences

You can let go of past experiences by simply not resisting it. Yes, you read it right. The more you resist a thought more it will come to your mind. Never try to fight your negative thoughts. Instead shift your focus to something positive. For example if you have a bad day at office, then listen your favorite music it will freshen your thoughts in few minutes. Also avoid the negative news like infection. Never ever consume negative content. It will make you negative bias and attracts more negativity in life.

Final Thoughts

Just wanna say that you have to understand that there is much more goodness in this world than you thought. If it was not there, we human beings would not have been living in a civilized society and would have been hunting on each other in the jungle like other animals.

The number of good people is more than number of bad ones. The number of people who wants peace is much greater than the number of people who wants war. The number of people who wants to eliminate poverty and help the needy are more than those who are ignorant. We just have to change our vision towards the world. If we try to see heaven , the world present itself like heaven. And if we imagine hell ,we have to go through one.